One thing I take very seriously is promises, and it disappoints me so much when we agree to do something, or someone promises me to do something, and then they don’t. It’s the same as how important the pinky promise is with Anne.

I know you always try to do your best. You’ve changed a lot of things in yourself to be more considerate and to be a good person, a good friend, and of course a good partner. I’m sorry if you feel bad a lot of the time, or feel like you’re not as good as you need to be. You are becoming better every day, trust me. We are learning this together. We have to tell each other what we need, and each of us should try to be gentle with the other, just like we try to do.

So, to say this clearly now: it hurts me when you tell me we are going to do X and then you cancel. I know that sometimes you feel tired at the end of the day, but for me, I organize my day around it, and I wait. When you don’t come, or don’t do what you told me we would do, it really disappoints me. This is the second time this has happened. It feels the same as (صبّيت لك فنجان قهوة وما جيت). And you know that the first time we said we would call and we didn’t, it hurt me, and I told you.

I have always seen you as a man of your word, and I still believe that about you, that’s why the disappointment feels so strong.

I just wanted to tell you that I take promises and plans seriously, and that’s because I trust you completely, even with the small things. If we can’t do what we say we will do, it’s better for me if you tell me before the time we planned, and I will respect that. But telling me at the exact time, when I ask, “So, shall we go?” or just disappearing, can cause this problem. All of this is just part of the transparency I told you I need, and of course, emergencies are not included.

These situations are not the end of us, and they don’t make you a bad person, because you are learning. We are both learning how to make this work for us in a healthy way.

I really love you, and I need this to work for both of us.